Okay, so back to reality. I don't consider myself to be an expert, but I do consider myself to be a good parent. But recently, I have had the revelation that my parenting skills have slipped (okay so maybe they crashed..but who's counting right?). I recently realized that what I never allowed myself to do when my children were little I now do. I am a firm believer in "following through". If I told my children "you do this, or there will be this consequence". Then you could guarantee if they didn't do it, the consequence would soon follow. The benefit of that was I had incredibly obedient children. I rarely had to double check them because they always obeyed me.
The past few weeks I have realized that my bluff on my children has disappeared. They are no longer afraid of me or consequences. I tell them to do something and they don't do it. Now, did this just start happening?? NO! I've no doubt it's been going on for some time and I am just now figuring it out. What does this mean for me?? It means I have to "buck up" and accept the responsibility of not following through. I have even found myself not even being able to come up with an "or else" if my children didn't obey me. WOW, how did I lose that skill??
I really believe I became so comfortable in my parenting skills that I let them slip away and didn't even realize it. Now, I have to choose to suck it up and start following through. If I don't, I will lose my children. It doesn't matter what I did in the past, or if I was a good parent 5 years ago, 2 years ago, or even yesterday, I must be a consistent everyday or I will not succeed in training my children in the ways of the Lord.
So back to my earlier whining, it would be a lot easier to just let them do whatever they want, but that would only be for the short term. The long term result would be children who have no respect, no self-discipline, and eventually they would break my heart. This is not a burden I have any desire whatsoever to bear!!
If you have any words of wisdom to share I would love to hear it!